I love our car chats. We talk about so many different subjects during a car ride. Sometimes I do all the talking . I'll admit it, I do get overzealous and passionate about a subject and might talk longer than I should. Perhaps his eyes glaze from time to time <<G>>, but when I get a question back or another similar story relayed, I know I have made some kind of connection or some spark has been lit. Today we talked about the future and about college. I wanted him to be AWARE. To be aware that sometimes when you hang around with people you like, but yet are different from you, you might start to second guess your decisions from time to time. I think it is only natural, especially if you are a young person. I know many homeschoolers, that he is in touch with, have an *agenda*. Whether it is their agenda, or their parents agenda, doesn't really matter. Their agenda is to attend college RIGHT AWAY, after homeschooling high school, or even taking college classes during the high school years. But college IS their immediate goal. He says he *does* want to go to college but I just want him to be AWARE of his own wants and needs and not get them confused with others. College *can* be his goal but it also doesn't *have to* be done right away. I used the analogy of a highway. Many of his friends will stay straight on the road to get to college, not veering off course. I want to remind him . . . to be continuously aware . . . that it is not necessarily the best and only way. Perhaps he will want to be on that same highway but take many exits and experience what each has to offer him. Perhaps he will want to forge ahead on the road, going right by the college, but doubling back at a later time. Maybe he will want to intersperse classes with his real life experiences taking his time to let it all soak in. I just want him to know there is not just ONE right way to proceed. Each person has their own needs and wants and timetable. And I just want him to have that AWARENESS, that he does have the choice to do it HIS own way, and if he does what he *wants*, it *will* be the RIGHT way. |